Friday night was spent at Nick's---I arrived first, then Marla got off work. We were sharing drinks when this woman approached Marla and introduced herself. The woman had short black hair, thick glasses and.....a figure I could best describe as shapeless. Marla referred to her later as Buddy Hackett. Obviously a lesbian---OK, but if you want to hit on my girlfriend you have to show me a little respect. I could have been invisible and I probably was.
Buddy Hackett explained that it was her first time at Nick's and asked Marla if she could buy her a drink. Hello? I'm holding her hand....it's a little brazen, isn't it? Marla responded,
"Why don't you buy my boyfriend a drink, too?"
She did, I thanked her for her drink and Buddy Hackett left when she saw that Marla was no longer paying attention to her. I left after ten minutes to grab Mexican food for Marla, me and the bartender and when I returned Buddy was hanging all over Marla again. And she even took a sip from my beer.
"That's not your beer," said Marla. I sat down, Buddy got the message and left soon after.
Now, Marla handled the situation beautifully but I had no idea what to do. If a guy hits on my girlfriend, I know what to do. Every guy does. I'm totally comfortable and in my element, then. But what do you do when a girl hits on your girlfriend? You notice that your girlfriend is uncomfortable, but what's the appropriate response?
Because I don't feel right using the same alpha-male tactics I'd use on a guy with a woman. Any suggestions?
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4 comments:
Ha ha! I love this post.
Remember that Seinfeld episode where Jerry's having coffee with the gay costumer from "Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat"? Another guy comes up and starts hitting on the costumer, and Jerry is offended that the dude would just assume he and the costumer weren't a gay couple?
brazen is right, hmm.
i don't have any advice, it's happened to me once, but the girl was making it clear she wanted more than one participant and hit on my bf also. i wasn't sure how to respond to that either :).
should be interesting to hear any savvy advice/response...
Tell her to back off, period. It's no different than a male hitting on her.
Why should it be?
Use the feminine propensity for language. Hard suggestive actions faild, soft and clear words may just do the trick. This assumes the opposite of a male.. that doesn't entirly fly.. :)
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